Since you're here, most likely something "hurts."
By this I mean that there is something that you are struggling with, whether it’s anxiety, or depression, or relationship struggles, or work/career troubles. If everything was feeling right, you probably wouldn’t be reading these words right now.
Maybe we can call it “something isn’t feeling right,” or this is too painful, too much suffering. Maybe you feel angry, irritable or impatient and have no idea why. Or you just KNOW things can be better than this! Whatever it is, the anxiety or depression or confusion is interfering in your life, and that's not ok with you. You're stuck. More about what hurts
Whatever "hurts," whatever is going on inside, it's no doubt really interfering with something VERY important to you:
You don’t want to be anxious because, in addition to it feeling really shitty, it also gets in the way of engaging in life in the way you want. Or if you’re depressed, in addition to it feeling pretty horrible and confusing, it also tells us that you’d like to be doing something much more important than what the depression is keeping you from. Or the anger or frustration keeps you from feeling more connected to people or have a more fulfilling work life. More about what matters
We will work together to explore this struggle in a mindful way, gain distance from it, and learn skills and strategies to reduce its impact and influence on your life. Maybe you don't have to work or struggle so hard in there. Maybe you don't have to fight as much. We will work together to figure out what works for you. The fact that you get to/have to choose between so many therapists shows that you are not alone in your struggles. Maybe it's time to get some help. Maybe you deserve it. More about what works
Rob Handelman, Psy.D.
I am a licensed clinical psychologist in New York and New Jersey, focusing on individuals struggling with anxiety, depression, relationship issues and work difficulties. In addition to private practice, I also lead workshops and trainings on mindfulness, stress management and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, a powerful mindfulness-based framework and set of interventions.
(Click here for a nice description of ACT)
My style as a psychotherapist is active and interactive. Most importantly, perhaps, is my non-judgmental stance. Therapy needs to be a judgment free zone, where you are free to explore all aspects of yourself: thoughts, feelings, behaviors…While symptoms usually prompt people to enter therapy with me, we will quickly clarify larger goals and values. I will ask many variations of “How will you know if our work together has been useful?” In my office, your struggles will be taken very seriously - I will listen carefully and ask good questions. And we will no doubt find a bunch of humor too. Read More...